inspiration

I have come up with an idea. It is not original, but I will definitely give credit where it is due. Today we have been "officially" waiting 2 months for our child! I'm still not sure of too many people read this, there's never much to comment on so I don't expect ya'll to say anything, but for those of you who do read it I wanted to give you something to look forward to. The 20th of every month I will feature a "Cute Item of the Month." My inspiration: Aaron and Christa Wiens. Some of you know them so you know about the Ugly Item of the Week, but for those of you who don't here is what it is. Aaron and Christa lived in beautiful (hahaha) Florida for what seemed like an eternity to them. They lived in a tiny little, fully furnished place. Well, the furnishings were hideous, so they began a weekly blog showing some of the wonderful items they got to look at and use every day. It was one of the ways that they tried to smile at a not so pleasant experience, sort of like a count down until they could leave. So, with that in mind I am going to try and have fun while I wait to bring my child home.

Like I said before, the 2oth of every month, which will act as a countdown (or up really, but that sounds funny) until we receive our referral. You will also get a glimpse of things purchased for her or her room. So here is the very first Cute Item of the Month:

This was the very first item purchsed for her room. I saw these lamps and had to have them. I bought two of them and will decorate her room around them. I guess you could call the motif retro, but not over the top retro.

hm...

So, our agency does not send us too many emails. They do, however, send us important information. So after a conference that the two directors attended they had some important things to say to those of us adopting from China. First, our wait will be longer than 18 months. This is something we already knew, but it kind of hurts to hear someone "in charge" say it. Also, they explained that the reason for the long wait is due to the high number of dossiers in China. The process to get a baby ready for adoption takes a ton of paperwork. This paperwork is actually what makes China's such a stable program. So, they just cannot keep up with the number of requests. There are still many children in need of homes, but the paperwork required to get them ready just takes a long time.

Just thought I'd share everything I know.

we have a date

A log in date that is. I just received an email from our agency that we were logged in on February 20th! It happened really fast. Our dossier was sent to China on February 9th, so it only took 11 days to get us logged in. From some email groups I am a part of people have been saying it took about one month to get logged in. We feel so blessed!

So we have officially begun our wait and are already 7 weeks into it. Nevermind that over the last two weeks the wait went from 17 months to 18 months, I just know that we are offically waiting. As weird as this sounds, we are so happy!

LID 2/20/07

seminar

Kevin and I got the privilege of attending an adoption education seminar hosted by our agency. We agreed to attend at least one of these (they are offered every 6 months) before our child arrives. We chose to attend this one, even though we could have waited.

It was incredible. We learned so much. We got to hear from the social workers, who are our coordinators, about the "normal" things you would expect from infants and toddlers and how that might differ in our child. Then a psychologist spoke to us regarding attachment and bonding, amazing! Then a pediatrician who has an international adoption clinic (who knew?) spoke to us regarding health issues unique to internationally adopted children. We also had in informal panel of adoptive parents. One couple had a little girl from Kazakhstan and little boy from China, and there was a single mother with a little boy from Ukraine and a little girl from Guatemala. Their stories were incredible and very encouraging to those of us who are still waiting. It was an all day thing, 9am-5pm jam packed with info.

I know I have never raised a child, but I have been a close observer of my friends and family. I can tell you this, everything I thought I knew about young children was pretty much flushed down the toilet in regards to our child. Due to the fact that she will have been in a orphanage or a foster home, the way things are done are very different. I know we have only reached the tip of the iceberg with international adoption. Hearing about all the needs of these children just made it so much clearer (as if it wasn't clear enough already) that we are doing the right thing. God has been equipping us for this journey for so long, and we didn't even know it. He is AMAZING!